Monday, June 13, 2005

Why are relationships so much work???

So...Im angry and thats why Im writing. Who is going to read this I wonder? Probably Anika and thats ok. Ani am I doing the right thing? Here I am 7 days away from moving in with him and Im totally having cold feet. I just feel like things should be better in our relationship before we live together cuz god knows it doesnt get any easier after you share space. AHHhhhh I just want to scream at the top of my lungs AND pull my hair out at the same time, Im so frustrated. It is so not healthy that we are fighting and that we havent worked out major issues and now we are going to live together 24/7! Yikes....all those problems are going to come back and bite me in the ass.


At 9:48 AM, Blogger anika said...


First, don't pull your hair out, it's too long and beautiful and it would make you sadder. Second, it's maybe a good idea to scream, just don't do it at work and if there are people around, make sure you warn them.

Here's my opinion (disclaimer: I am absolutely not a relationship guru or any such thing!!). I think that you and Cam are a healthy couple because you both are aware that you have baggage and that you have things that you need to work out (separately and alone). I think a sign of someone who's not screwed up is that they know they're screwed up.

I think you're getting cold feet because you're making a big decision and sometimes it's really difficult to know whether your decision is the right one or not.

You will be okay, my dear, I promise. And if you need to eat chocolate or drink martinis or eat cheese sticks or cry or watch movies or drive around aimlessly or scream in front of someone, I am here.

I love you to bits.

At 4:23 PM, Blogger Jen-Nae said...

you are the coolest friend I could ask for...thanks for just being there and encouraging me!

At 5:33 PM, Blogger anika said...

Um, I just noticed in the 2nd paragraph I wrote "separately and alone" but I meant "separately and together" ... Good proof reading, self!


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